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Why My Inner Narcissist Needs to Make Its Reality My Reality

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It’s not narcissistic – it’s realistic!

I’ve never worked harder in my life than when I’ve invested in validating reality – mine.

Why? Because my beliefs about what is and isn’t real needs to stay at the top of my defense list. Otherwise, the world rains down broccoli-flavored skittles, teenagers start making sense – and I forget who’s in charge: my inner narcissist (my ego).

Making a stand isn’t about me – it’s about my world. I don’t need to be fixed – my world does!

That’s why I take such pride in my ability to make choices and why filtering things and people into their constituent parts brings me a sense of purpose. The value I find there validates my reality.

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How I Use the Memory Match Game to Justify My Judgments

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My mind plays a Memory Match Game to justify my judgments.

My game of match-up is a kind of replication recall my ego uses to fulfill its need to be right. Matching memories with present experience supports my reality as I believe it to be. Validation from my past gives me a confidence about judging that feels successful.

When it comes to being right, my ego likes to hedge its bets by, 1) visiting memories of related events for past support, and 2) using imagination to modify or create memories in order to validate a present judgment.

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