Relevance of Values and Sacrifice

Carol and I had another relevant discussion last night in which I realized how arbitrary and illusory are my values. My question last night was, “At what level of value does a sacrifice become acceptable?” Her response was an epiphany for me, “Any level – because how can you place a value on a dream?” That is, how can you say that one dream is more valuable than another – or one aspect of a dream more important than any other aspect? You can’t! All aspects are equally subjective and therefore irrelevant to value.

First, let me define value –

“the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.” (Google)

To which, I ask, “According to who?” That is, who assigns that value? Who determines “the importance, worth, or usefulness of something”?

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How My Need Fulfillment Train Goes in Circles

I have needs! Might the fulfillment of those needs create more needs? Does this concept seem circular to you, too?

I have a pretty fertile imagination. I imagine you do, too. It’s one of the defining characteristics that make us human. I can, for example,

“…see a world in a grain of sand and heaven in a wild flower, hold infinity in the palm of [my] hand and eternity in an hour.” (William Blake)

I wonder what else I can imagine? Let’s focus on perception, which is the application of imagination to interpret sensual data based on belief.

What I believe, I perceive and intend to support.

I invest an attention value to each need I perceive. My perception of a need motivates me to set an intention toward its fulfillment. My investment in  someone or something fuels my intention to act. It’s a train!

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4 Questions Extract Value from Defensiveness

Values are both subjective and personal. They are symbolic representations of who I believe I am. They are NOT who I am any more than a dollar is what it represents.

Through attention I invest value into my perceptions. Attention is choice, a defense, in which I focus on one perception while locking out others.

Attention = Choice = Lock-on + Lock-out = Defense

That which I value I defend. The more I defend a thing, the more I in-tend to value it. That which I defend I in-tend to increase in value with the investment I put into its defense. The more I value a thing, the more I feel the need to defend it.

The reverse seems to work as well: the less I value something the less I’ll tend to defend it; and, the less I defend something the less I’ll tend to value it.

Is there a direct relationship between value and defense?

Let’s assume for the purpose of discussion that the above relationship is true. What then?

“You’re acting so defensively!” I’ve heard others say to me. Of course, my snappy come-back is, “No, I’m not!” – which, of course, is simply another way of saying, “Yes! It’s true!” while providing me a feeling of rightness in defending my defensiveness!

Instead, were I to express gratitude for the information and investigate WHAT, HOW, or even WHY defensive I might discover a personal value I take for granted – WHO I am.

I say for granted because my defense was covert to me – I was unaware of the defense and probably the value being defended. While the defense is “automatic,” the value is hidden. When I’m defensive, could I be avoiding discovering who I am?

For example, I perform some defensive behavior – maybe I’ve acted inappropriately. Someone calls me on it – “What is the matter with you?” To which, I respond, “I’m fine! What’s the matter with YOU?”

In my mind, I suddenly realize that I’ve behaved defensively by using a deflection move (“Wax on, wax off!”). Awesome time to look at my defensive behavior as a RESOURCE to gain information about who I am.

Four Useful Questions

  1. “WHAT am I defending?”  Represents identity relevant to its source.
  2. “HOW am I defending?” Represents process relevant to its source.
  3. “WHY am I defending?” Represents value relevant to its source.
  4. “WHO am I defending?” Represents embodiment relevant to its source.

Values are, well, valuable. By asking the above four questions, I can extract value from all that defensiveness.

With this new information about who I am, rather than seeking to “just let it go” when I feel defensive, perhaps I might look into the possibility of transforming my thoughts from “neediness” to “wholeness.”

In Search of The Core Value

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Warning: Audio imagery induces altered states of consciousness.

What would you judge is most important in life? Your family? Your job? How you appear to others? Where you live? Who you know? Maybe the kind of car you drive? Or the house you bought?

Where did you get these values? Your parents? Your co-workers? Your boss? Your spouse? Maybe your society? Or maybe you invented them yourself?

Whatever your values or wherever they came from, there is probably one that underlies them all: existence. In order to enjoy any of the others, you must first exist. In fact, that value is SO valuable that elements of your self will do just about anything to preserve it.

Just to give you a sense of how valuable your values are and where they come from, we offer this audio imagery by Joseph free of charge – in search of the core value. Enjoy!

(WARNING: The MP3 audio track linked to above is a hypnotic imagery and as such is not intended for use while driving or while operating or using dangerous equipment or tools. Please use caution as this audio track is intended to induce altered states of consciousness.).