Ever experienced one or more of these situations?
- A person walks into the room and you suddenly feel cold.
- You meet someone and within 2 minutes of being in their presence you’re looking for the door.
- You have to talk with someone on the phone (e.g., customer service) and feel exhausted afterward.
- You see a commercial on TV and then feel moody or depressed.
- You realize you’ve said the word “no” far more often than you normally do.
I’ve experienced all of the above. They indicate that I’m in the presence of what some call an energy vampire – a person who sucks your life force energy in an attempt to fill their emptiness, their need. For some people, that emptiness is like a bottomless pit that can never be filled – because they are looking for fulfillment in the wrong place – from others.
As much as I’d like to share some energy with you, it’s not mine or yours to give or take. It’s not “my energy” level I’m dealing with. Labeling it “mine” makes it confined only to what I choose to perceive. Labeling the vast energy of the universe as somehow separate from me, or that I can only have a little piece of it, is just plain false. I can’t even begin to fathom the immensity of energy available to me all the time. That’s why I say things like, “I just don’t have the energy to… [do something I don’t want to do]” and etc. I create a thought bubble to justify using less energy than that which is available to me – limitation by my own design.
There is plenty of empirical evidence to support my ego’s contention that I have limited energy stores available to me. At the end of a particularly busy day, I can feel fatigued and fall instantly asleep when my head hits the pillow. I say to myself, “You worked hard and ran out of energy… time to rest…” And yet, why would I need to rest when there is no shortage of energy – just the energy available in one atom in my body is sufficient to run my house for a year – so why the “shortage?” Why the “need?”
Ah, and perhaps it’s not people who suck – rather it’s my beliefs that suck!
Consider my beliefs, when I experience the situations mentioned above, I might point the looking glass in my own direction. I recognize the “suck” because I’m already attuned to it. I so rarely recognize “the suck” in myself – yet often recognize it in others. I’m far too polite to point it out to others, though – “You really suck, man. I could feel you start sucking my energy the moment you entered the room…” Instead, I’ll just disengage and look for an excuse to leave – I’m not a fighter – not realizing that the real energy suck – the real need – originated in me!
Where I might really gain some insight and value is to look at myself. When I feel my energy being “sucked” out, I might consider how I’m blocking my access to universal energy. When “plugged in” to that source, no amount of sucking would affect me because I’d have near-infinite supply. How might I feel fatigued when connected to that level of energy? Not gonna happen.
Whenever I feel that my energy is being depleted by someone else, I might remind myself that I’m making a choice to deny my connection. I’ve forgotten to acknowledge and accept the nearly infinite energy that surrounds us all the time. Time to choose again and reconnect.