When it comes to denial –
“No man has a good enough memory to be a successful liar.” (Abraham Lincoln)
Memory serves as self-referencing evidence of existence. Since my present existence depends upon how I’ve perceived my past, I consider my memory to be my lifeline, a necessary standard of truth, for my future.
What happens when I’m in denial?
Given that my present understanding of reality is based on my belief that my memory is an accurate and true record of my past, I have developed an ability to live in the past while seemingly holding on to the present. You might consider this a kind of dualistic mental juggling – a means of living on borrowed time from another dimension of self.
Denial and Memory
When I deny my self in the present – I am sacrificing it to an abstract past. This means trusting who I thought I was rather than who I am now. I am giving up my right to my future by being right about my past.
When I attach truth to a memory, that memory becomes a lifeline. When I challenge that memory, my present perspective will affect that memory and create a new lifeline. When I stop recreating my past truth, I can start living my present life.
Perspective and truth tend to grow closer together when I allow them to be independent of each other.
When it comes to memories:
- Challenge their accuracy.
- Deny their absolute truth.
- See what happens…